Note: The video is smack dab in the middle of Dr. Shefali's nuggets. You are smart people and can read around it. This is me accepting my imperfection and I can't get the video to move without a lot of time and effort.
I watched Dr. Shefali Tsabary last night on OWN's Lifeclass. As she started talking, I was astounded and amazed. What she was talking about takes my journey of consciousness to another level and THE most important one as a parent. If you read this blog ever, my mode of operating is to evolve my thinking and new ahas rock my world. This has to do with my children and their role in my spiritual development. Dr. Shefali says that our children are hear to evolve us. I have learned that any body that pushes my buttons can teach me something about myself. It's not just that they are a pissy person. They can push me further down my path towards enlightenment.
Here are some of Dr. Shefali's nuggets:
We rarely ever parent from the present, we rarely ever not parent in fear.
The ego is so seductive. It believes there is only one way to affirm the self. But it is a fear based way.
Get yourself out of the way of your children and allow them to EMERGE.
How can we tell our children that their best wasn't good enough? How would you feel if someone you loved told you that?
These children are so full of expansive spirit and we try to reduce them to one thing: a grade, a sport, etc.
We come from a place of wanting our children to be empowered and complete as possible. But then we project our fears onto them.
I know who I am - Listen to your child. Don't try to mold them into someone else.
This one I'm not sure if it is from Oprah or Dr. Shefali. These questions are the ones that I am learning to ask myself when I engage with my children. This is what is on their minds:
Do you see me?
Do you hear me?
Do I matter?