I was in shock and numb after my eldest daughter ran in to tell me last night that Ruth Bader Ginsberg had died. I was numb the rest of the evening and it was only fitting that I had to drive in the darkness late to pick up my daughter from an event. It feels like a light has gone out.
She always fought in a quiet but brilliant way to interpret things differently and bring the all male bench along with her when she presented her cases. She said it was like teaching kindergarten and they had never heard anything like this before. She did it nicely without raising her voice as her mother had instructed.
Before I had children I decided that I wanted to be emotionally present for my children. I didn't really understand what that meant but have spent the last twenty years figuring it out, diligently. It was a calling. I did not feel heard growing up because I felt I didn't have the right to speak. I can see this pattern to different levels in my daughters and in other women of all ages. I processed life alone in my head and now I do it by writing and hope to connect with others. I was a people pleaser and I stayed silent until it really began to burn me up inside and then I dove in hard to understand. That anger of staying silent was a sign that my boundaries were not being honored. I didn't have any boundaries! Therapy along with changing my image of God has helped tremendously. God is love and God is in everyone, of every color, race, creed and religion. Justice Ginsberg who was Jewish fought to care for the marginalized just as Jesus instructs us too. It's amazing that non-Christians act in a manner following Jesus better than many Christians.
Justice Ginsberg's tenacity in interpreting the law was overwhelmingly obvious when watching her story. I feel the that same way about healing pain that is passed generationally. If you don't transform your pain it will be passed on. Even before I knew that what meant, I was unconsciously working hard not to do that. I have stayed with this learning of how to listen to my children, and be a heart with ears. I am learning to listen to my own self this way.
I'm not a "march for your rights" kind of girl. I'm introverted and learning to write my way out and take care of those whom I love with tenacity, listening and continued learning.
Ruth Bader Ginsberg was a transformational powerhouse in her own quiet but mighty way. I take inspiration, and much gratitude for her as a role model and icon.
Be who you are, use your talent and do it to the best of your ability.
Stand up for those who need it.
RIP Ruth Bader Ginsberg - You fought the good fight. Imagining your joyous reunion with your mom whom you lost so early and your Marty with a smile on my face.