I had my annual birthday tension two days ago. It presented as being mad at my husband who had been off for the last week but went back to work on my birthday and was also on call which precluded us from an uninterrupted evening meal out. I think I am also having PMS. This IS a lethal combination.
Last year, we were at the beach on my birthday and it was fantastic. I tried to do that again this year but George had to be a witness at a trial which is what messed up my plans royally. In the end I just needed him to say he understood my disappointed feelings. He did after instructions and magically, my birthday funk dissipated. It was also helped by a complete stranger at my daughter's back to school party who also validated my feelings of wanting to feel special on my birthday. She completely got "it."
I was able to spend my birthday with the loves of my life. I needed to take care of myself first though. I have to be the first love and then it makes all else flow well and it so much easier to come from a place of gratitude.